As a woman, have you ever been accused of being “the man in the relationship?”
Has your partner ever said that it feels like he is in a relationship with another man?
These are not uncommon complaints in many of today’s relationships. One of the reasons that men feel that women are behaving and showing up more like men than women is because they are!!
With so many opportunities available to women, women have taken over roles that are traditionally male-dominated. There are more women leading million dollar corporations. Women are the fastest growing group to start businesses. Women are leading more single parent households. Women are earning more degrees.
The list could go on and on.
Unfortunately, these same women who are achieving more in life have forgotten how to move and operate in their feminine energy more than in their masculine energy when it comes to their romantic relationships.
Biologically and spiritually, we all have both masculine energy and feminine energy (yin and yang). Masculine energy is: action oriented, doing, competitive, results oriented, directing, assertive, structured, giving
Feminine energy is: feeling oriented, intuitive, detailed, and receiving, being, systems oriented, being, collective
In the home, two masculine energies cannot coexist and two feminine energies cannot coexist. One energy has to be stronger than the other. So when a woman comes home and is still operating in the masculine energy, the feminine energy within the man rises up and causes the man to retreat. But, when the woman show up at home more in her feminine energy, it allows the masculine energy within the man to rise up and help “the man be the man.”
So how do you as a women learn to allow the man to be the man by operating more in your feminine energy?
Relinquish your need to control and direct. Controlling and directing things/people are very specific masculine traits. It serves very well in the workplace, but not so well in the home. Start practicing the art of allowing instead. The next time you ask your man to do something, allow him to do it in his way. Allow him to make mistakes. Allow him to learn without you rising up and being his teacher, leader, guide (again, masculine traits).
Practice just listening and being. Create a safe, soft space mentally and emotionally for your man to land when he comes home to you. Set the atmosphere in your home or space with feminine energy with colors, lights, and sounds (feminine, not necessarily romantic).
When you start practicing these two activities on a daily basis in your romantic relationship, you will allow the space for your man’s “masculine traits” to become more dominate. The results, you will respect him more and he will cherish you more.
~SAM
