Who are you becoming?

Today is officially the last day of the first quarter of 2018. And instead of thinking about how many of my goals I have accomplished, I am thinking about who am I becoming. To really get clear on this question,  I have to ponder on several other questions:

  • How would I describe myself on December 31, 2017?
  • How would I describe myself today, March 31, 2018?
  • How are those two people different?
  • Do I like who I am becoming?
  • In what areas have I grown?
  • What new lessons have I learned about myself? About life? About God?
  • How am I applying those lessons learned? How will I apply those lessons learned in the future?
  • How has my growth over the last 3 months moving me closer to my goals?

You see, the attainment of your goals isn’t solely about the goals themselves. It is about the person you have to become in order to reach those goals. That is why there is usually a delay between what you’re believing for and what you’ve been working for and the receiving of it.

Would you buy a child a pair of roller skates when he can barely keep his balance while walking? No.

Would you give your friend $5000 for a business loan when you know that she hasn’t properly managed her own personal money? No, you would not.

Who do you need to become in order to get the husband? The wife? The pay raise? The $5000?

How have you progressed into becoming her?

If you are not intentionally growing, you are unintentionally shrinking back into a person who less than who you need to become. Which will you choose?

This Post Has 10 Comments

  1. Cynthia

    Thank you!!! That’s all I need to say

    1. Sherica A. Matthews

      You’re welcome!

  2. Vanessa

    Hello there… I must say this was truly a wonderful thing to contemplate on. have no reflections and self-examination really helps in the process of growth! God bless you WOG.. may God continue to keep you and use you and bless you and all things

    1. Sherica A. Matthews

      Thank you! I’m glad that this post really blessed you!

  3. Rhonda

    I will have to say that this blog really give me insight on who I too am becoming. From December 2017 to now April 5, , 2018 I can honestly say that trying to attain the goal of becoming a leader has been one the most humbling processes I have ever experienced. I finished my Doctorate degree in December and now I am aiming for the position of VP of Student Affairs well at least that’s what I thought I was doing. I found that I have a great interest in the very thing I kept running from and that is Assessment and Accreditation. I have found myself really wanting to grow in this area of expertise. I have find myself laughing at this because it is something that I would have never picked to do as a career especially at this stage in my life. I found myself talking a lot more to God and asking him about every move or should I say step I take as it relates to my career and relationships. Do I feel I am a step closer to my purpose? Yes, sometimes not knowing and allowing God to direct us is one the most rewarding phases in life that one could do! Allowing God to take control and order my steps has been the biggest challenge for me. I have tried to direct my path for so long that it is rewarding to just enjoy the process of allowing God to spearhead my path. I am excited to see where he will lead me. I have seen Him come through time and time again and now in this season I am sincerely relinquishing my rights to His will. It feels good to not stress about what will I do now vs. what will you have me do now?

    Its something I really think that He patiently waits for and is happy to help us all with. So do I see a difference from December to April? My response would be yes! My goal is to continually walk in the path that has been set for me and not allow outside influences to stir me away from my destiny. This blog asked a lot of questions that we should ask ourselves every so many months to keep us accountable for the goals we set for ourselves and to weigh in on if we what we are pursuing is really what we want to do in life, be it weight loss, career aspirations, academics, etc. I also learned that the journey is just as important as the goal itself. I think the journey shapes our walk into the very thing that we are desiring!! Thank you for this awesome blog.

    1. Sherica A. Matthews

      Amen! Amen! Amen! I completely understand the growth process you’re growing through. I would have never thought that God would call me to serve people on this level! I just knew that my “calling” was to be an engineer . . . but look at God! Sometimes you want to laugh. Sometimes you want to cry. But, no matter how you FEEL, you still have peace because God is the director of your life! Continue on and I can’t wait to witness the results of this journey that God has you on!! 🙂

  4. Marlene Nash

    Thanks for sharing and keeping me focused and centered on my goals and encouragement to keep moving forward.
    God bless you and your Ministry.

    1. Sherica A. Matthews

      You’re welcome!!

  5. Daria

    Great post! This served as a reminder for me to track what has happened so far in this new year as well as rearrange, change etc things to help me attain my desired goals. Thanks so much!

    1. Sherica A. Matthews

      You’re welcome!

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